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(視頻) Anita Moorjani 艾妮塔.穆札尼 - 自我和靈性 / Ego & Spirituality


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我們應該消除自我來提高靈性嗎?
Should we try to get rid of ego in order to become more spiritual?

Find Anita on her website, Facebook page and radio show:
http://www. anitamoorjani.com
https://www.facebook.com/Anita.Moorjani
http://www.hayhouseradio.com/#!/host/anita-moorjani

如果您不認識艾妮塔,可以從這部影片了解她的瀕死經驗以及她如何奇蹟似地在幾週內從癌症末期康復。
If you are not familiar with Anita’s story, you can watch this video to learn about her near-death experience and how she miraculously recovered from her terminal illness.

http://judyhtranslate.blogspot.com/2016/08/anita-moorjani.html


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(視頻) 人生是一首音樂 / Life as Music (Alan Watts 艾倫•沃茲)


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人生是一趟有目的的旅程,或是一首令人欣喜的音樂或舞蹈?

艾倫•威爾遜•沃兹(Alan Wilson Watts,1915-1973)是一位生於英國的哲學家、作家和演說家,以為西方聽眾為對象闡述和傳播東方哲學而聞名於世。

Is life a journey with a destination, or like a piece of music or dance that we are supposed to go along with?

Alan Wilson Watts (6 January 1915 – 16 November 1973) was a British philosopher, writer, and speaker, best known as an interpreter and populariser of Eastern philosophy for a Western audience.

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米雅的夢 / Mia’s Dream 

做開心的事,不是浪費時間 / If It Brings You Joy, It’s Not “Wasting Time”  

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米雅的夢 / Mia’s Dream



我要像這隻鳥一樣開心自在! /  I want to be as free and joyful as this bird !

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一個夢… 用一個故事和對話來呈現

A dream … presented in a form of story and conversation.


By Judy H

一個重要的方案馬上就要展開,會讓米雅忙得天昏地暗,她真不想做這個方案。

A big project is going to kick off involving Mia in an overwhelming way. Mia is not sure that she wants to be part of that project. 

在過去近十年,米雅一直從事會計的工作,現任職一家全球頂尖的科技公司。這份工作也許會令不少會計師羨慕 -- 她和一群菁英共事,待遇很好,前途似錦。不過在過去這一年,米雅有個「奇怪」的現象。常常工作到一半,她心裏會冒出一個突兀的感覺,好像在告訴她:「這不是你該做的事。」每次這個感覺一上來,心有所感的米雅會反問:「那我應該做什麼? 我還可以靠什麼維生?」

Mia has been working as an accountant for almost 10 years and is now employed with a top global technology company. That would be a dream job for many accountants – a job where you work with many talents with a good pay and promising career. However, over the past year, Mia has been feeling “funny” about her work. Very often in the middle of doing something, Mia would feel a nudge in her heart that seems to say: “You shouldn’t be doing this.” Every time this little voice comes up, Mia would recognize it and ask back: “But what should I be doing instead? What else can I do to make a living?

當這個大方案宣佈出來的時候,米雅知道它將帶給自己很大的壓力。她雖不排斥會計的工作,心裏總感覺缺少一份對會計的熱情。也許是因為對數字的興趣不高,有時工作會帶給她不小的壓力。

When this big project was announced, Mia knew that it was going to create a lot of stress. She is OK being an accountant, but she knows deep down that she is not enthusiastic about accounting. And probably because she is not passionate about crunching numbers, the stress level sometimes is high for her.

米雅真的很不想接手這個方案。她聽到越多和方案有關的細節,她心裏那個突兀的感覺就越強烈。在家休假期間,米雅收到上司的一封電子郵件,通知組裏的所有同事有位組員就要離職了。「應該離開的是我!」米雅聽到自己在心裏吶喊。這時她覺得無法再按捺心中那個要她做別的事的聲音。三天後回去上班時,米雅遞上了辭呈。

Mia is really not looking forward to working on that project, and the more she hears about it, the louder is the nudging voice. While taking some time off, Mia receives an email from her supervisor informing everyone on the team that someone is leaving. “I should be the one who leaves!” Mia shouts out in her head. She can longer ignore the inner voice that tells her to do something else. Three days later when Mia goes back to work, she turns in her resignation letter.

離開一份讓她每天睡眠不足、喘不過氣的工作,頓時讓米雅覺得好自由好輕鬆。不過這種自由開心的感覺沒有維持很久,因為米雅開始為不再分擔家計感到有些罪惡感。她開始思考:「我下一步該怎麼做? 我現在該做什麼?」

It feels liberated and relieved to leave a job that has deprived Mia of so many hours of sleep and stifled her with constant stress. However, the feeling of freedom and joy does not last very long before Mia starts to feel guilty about no longer making a financial contribution to her family. She begins to ponder: “What should I do next? What am I supposed to do now?”

米雅覺得那個她一直聽到的聲音,是要她去做一些她會感到振奮的事。她同時相信她到這世上是有目的的,她希望她能做一個正確的抉擇,幫助她實現那個目的。但是不管她怎麼努力去想,她還是不知道那個目的是什麼。

Mia realizes that the voice she has been hearing urges her to do something that she is passionate about. She also believes that she came to this world for a purpose and she wants to make a right choice to fulfill that purpose. However, no matter how hard she tries, she can’t figure it out.

「如果我想做的事不能賺錢怎麼辦?」米雅無奈地望著蒼天。

“What if what I like to do doesn’t make any money?” Mia asks the Universe in disappointment. 

她開始在兩個聲音中掙扎: 一個是她的自我,拉開嗓門呼喚她去追求名利,另一個來自她的內心深處,悄悄地向她透露她真正想做的事。米雅在重拾會計和想做的事之間猶豫不決。她很害怕會做出一個錯誤的決定,走上一個不屬於她的道路。

She finds herself struggling with two competing voices – one from her ego that shouts loudly for fame and money, and the other from her heart whispering to her what she really likes. She battles between the ideas of going back to accounting and doing something she likes. She is afraid of making a wrong decision that would lead her astray from her true path.

不知不覺地她開始陷入恐懼,心裏很不安。「不行,我不能再這樣害怕下去。這樣下去我會完蛋!」她用手抱住自己的頭說。為了消除不安的念頭讓自己平靜下來,米雅想到嘗試用「自我肯定」的方法。她安撫著自己說:「宇宙愛我,會指引我。宇宙愛我,會指引我。」

Her fear starts to grow and eat into her peace. “No, I can’t live with this fear any longer. This is going to kill me,” putting her arms around her head, Mia hears her saying. In order to dispel this fearful thought and calm herself down, she decides to try self-affirmation, by saying to herself: “I am loved; I am guided. I am loved; I am guided.” 

接下來的幾天,米雅每天重覆對自己說這些話。說也奇怪… 它居然發生效果。米雅開始覺得平靜下來,對未來也感到比較放心。

In the following days, Mia repeats this to herself many times a day. And somehow… it works. She begins to feel more peaceful with a sense of trust. 

然後在這天晚上,米雅作了一個夢。她在夢裏遇見一個人回答了她的問題。她不知道那個人是誰,只知道她到那裏是為了得到指引。

Then one night she has a dream. In it, she meets someone who answers her nagging questions. She doesn’t know who that person is but she feels that she goes to him for guidance.

米雅: 我不知道該怎麼辦,我需要幫助。我接下來的人生該做什麼? 我人生的目的是什麼?

MIA: I’m confused and need help. What am I supposed to do with my life? What is my purpose?

智者: 你可以做任何你想做的事。做什麼都好。

WISE MAN: You can do whatever you want. It doesn’t matter. 

米雅: 呃-? 這是什麼意思? 我想要做宇宙要我做的事。

MIA: Huh? What do you mean? I want to do what the Universe wants me to do. 

智者: 沒有人有權利告訴你要怎麼做。你對你的人生有完全的主宰權。你的人生在你的手上。這個權利在你身上。無論你選擇做什麼,你的人生都會一樣燦爛美好。你做什麼都可以。

WISE MAN: There is no authority to tell you what you need to do. You have full authority over your life. Your life is in your hands. The power is with you. No matter what you choose to do, your life will always be glorious and magnificent. What you do doesn’t make a difference. 

米雅: 但是我想賺錢,同時做我喜歡的事。

MIA: But I want to make money and do something I enjoy.

智者: 那麼就跟隨你的心意吧。

WISE MAN: Then follow your heart. 

米雅: 如果我喜歡做的事賺不到錢怎麼辦?

MIA: What if what I like doesn’t generate a good income?

智者: 你可以在金錢和快樂兩者間取捨。我不是說這兩者不能共存。但是如果你不能同時擁有兩者,你可以選擇你想經歷什麼。如果你選擇金錢,它會給你某一種經歷,雖然那可能不會很愉快。如果你選擇快樂,你就會經歷快樂。這是一個選擇。

WISE MAN: You can make a choice between money and happiness. I don’t mean that the two cannot co-exist. But if you can’t have both at the same time, you can decide what you want to experience. If you choose money, it will give you one kind of experience, which may be unpleasant. If you choose happiness, you will experience happiness. It’s a choice. 

米雅: 可是要放棄賺錢的念頭很難,畢竟人都要活下去。

MIA: It’s hard to let go of the desire to make money. We all have to live.

智者: 你的心會指引你。跟隨你的心,就是跟隨宇宙的指引。除非你選擇跟隨你的心,否則你不會知道宇宙為你的人生預備了什麼。還有,不要忘記,當你到另外一個世界時,你不會帶走任何一樣物質的東西,你只會帶著你心靈裏的東西

WISE MAN: Your heart is always guiding you. When you follow your heart, you are following that guidance from the Universe. And you don’t know what the Universe has in store for you until you follow it to find out. Besides, keep in mind that you cannot bring any material things with you when you go to the other world. You only bring what’s in your soul with you. 

米雅: 如果我作了錯誤的選擇怎麼辦?

MIA: What if I make a mistake in my choice?

智者: 沒有錯誤這回事,一切都只是體驗。如果你不喜歡某個體驗,你可以創造不同的體驗。沒有人會評斷你,沒有對和錯。你來這裏是為了體驗,是為了儘量讓自己開心。沒有什麼事是你該做或不該做的。沒有任何標準來衡量你,沒有你需要達到的目標,除非你選擇要有。所有你認為你必須達到的標準都是你的社會,這個物質世界所設定的。你是一個自由的靈魂,不受任何規範的約束。

WISE MAN: There are no mistakes. They are all just experiences. If you don’t like one experience, you can create a different one. There is no one to judge you. There is no right or wrong. You are here to experience and to have fun if you can, and there are no certain things you should or shouldn’t do. There are no criteria to measure you with; there are no goals you need to achieve unless you choose to have them. All the criteria that you think you have to meet are created by your society, the physical world. You are a free soul that is not limited by any criteria. 

米雅: 你是說,即使我失敗了也不用責怪自己嗎?

MIA: Are you saying that I shouldn’t judge myself, even when I fail? 

智者: 也沒有失敗這回事。像一個學走路的孩子,如果他跌倒了,你會說他失敗了嗎? 你會責備他跌倒嗎? 如果他一再跌倒,你會對他失去耐心嗎?

WISE MAN: There is also no such thing as failure. Like a child who is learning to walk, if she falls, would you call that a failure? Would you blame her for falling? And if she falls again and again, would you lose patience with her? 

米雅: 但可能我的決定將來會為我自己帶來很大的痛苦。

MIA: But I could end up making a choice that would give me a lot of grief. 

智者: 那也沒有關係。那只是一個體驗,那個體驗會帶領你到另一個體驗,然後另一個體驗等等。你的體驗不會是永久的,你可以改變它。

所有的體驗都是同樣真切和重要的。無論你是積極地在完成一件事,或是安靜地坐在一旁發呆,你都是在「充實地」過日子。人生中沒有那一段時間是比其他時間重要的。你做的事並不重要,重要的是你的心境 -- 如果你的目的是要在這世上享有平安和喜樂。如果你有平安喜樂,你生命的每一刻都是光彩奪目,可喜可賀。

WISE MAN: That’s OK. That would just be another experience. That experience will lead you to the next experience, and the next experience, etc. Your experience is not permanent so you can change it. 

All experiences are equally true and important. Whether you are “productive” in getting something done or you are simply sitting there quietly with yourself doing nothing, in either case you are living your life FULLY. No specific time in your life is more important than other times. It’s not what you do that’s important, it’s your state of mind that matters, if you want to experience peace and joy in your world. If you have peace and joy, every moment of your life is glorious and worth celebrating. 

米雅: 如何才能擁有平安和喜樂?

MIA: How do I have peace and joy?

智者: 它們來自你的內心。所以你要認識你的心,然後緊緊地跟隨它。

WISE MAN: They come from your heart. So you need to know your heart and follow it closely. 

米雅: 認識心的什麼?

MIA: What to know about my heart?

智者: 認識你喜歡做什麼,什麼會讓你開心,了解主宰生命的力量在你的心裏。

WISE MAN: To know what you like to do and what makes you happy. To know that the power is within you. 

米雅: 但有時要跟隨自己的心意很難,因為我耽心別人會怎麼看我,我不喜歡和別人不一樣。

MIA: But sometimes it’s hard to follow my heart because I’m afraid of what other people would think of me. I don’t like to be different. 

智者: 那很正常,因為你是這樣被培育長大的。我剛才說過,你是來這裏體驗的。有些時候你會覺得很難做你自己,但是你總會有下一刻或下一個機會去嘗試不同的作法。這是為什麼生命的每一刻都是恩賜,因為在每一刻你都可以隨意去創造。如果這一刻你很生氣,下一刻你可以選擇平靜下來。

WISE MAN: That is normal because you were brought up that way. Again, you are here to experience. There will be times when you feel uncomfortable being yourself, but you always have the next moment or opportunity to do it differently. That’s why every moment of your life is a gift because in it you get to create what you want to create. If you are angry this moment, you can choose to have peace the next moment. 

米雅: 我不確定生命是一個恩賜。

MIA: I’m not sure that I see life as a gift. 

智者: 如果你能夠做你自己並且做你喜歡的事,你的人生會開始變得有意義,會開始感覺像一份恩賜。 

WISE MAN: If you can be yourself and do things you like to do, your life will become meaningful and start to feel like a gift. 

這時,智者開始從畫面中消失….

The Wise Man starts to fade away….

當米雅從夢境中醒來時,她有種幸福的感覺。不過那個夢境有些奧妙,所以接下來的一兩個星期,米雅經常回顧去思考它的涵意。

As Mia is waking up from her dream, she is feeling very euphoric. The feeling she experienced in her dream was very profound and it takes Mia a couple of weeks to understand all its meanings. 

米雅內心的爭戰終於結束。她明白她是個自由的靈魂,她可以跟隨自己的心意,做自己的選擇,評斷和束縛其實並不存在。

The inner struggle Mia had is finally over. She starts to see herself as a free spirit – free to follow her heart and make her own decisions and free of any judgment and limits. 

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關於作/譯者 Judy H
因為不認識自己,不知道愛自己,一直走在尋覓療癒的路上,然後認識了艾妮塔‧穆札尼。聽到她的訊息有分享的衝動,於是建立了這個網站幫助自己也幫助別人。對認識心靈和愛自己的內容特別感興趣。喜歡寫譯相關文章,和志同道合的人分享,讓更多的人陪我一起走在這條讓人興奮感動的路上 😊

About Judy H
Coming from a place where I didn’t know myself, not to mention loving myself, I have been on a quest to heal myself until I came to know Anita Moorjani. When I did, I felt the urge to share her message. Therefore, I created this blog to help myself and other people. I am interested in getting to know my soul and learning to love it. I like to translate and write inspiring stories and share them with like-minded people so that I have company on this exciting and loving journey 😊



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生命的意義到底是什麼? (艾妮塔.穆札尼) / What is the true meaning of life? (Anita Moorjani)

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在2017-1-18這集的直播問答裏,艾妮塔觸及了以下議題:

1. 憂鬱症的主因
2. 向內探究,勇敢作夢
3. 對沒有組織條理的生活感到自在
4. 關於「心理超越物質」和「吸引力法則」
5. 真愛在那裏?
6. 痛苦的人生值得去過嗎?
7. 自殺的人會遭遇什麼?

快樂開心的人絕對不會選擇離開人世,決定離開的人必定經歷了巨大難以承受的痛苦。希望艾妮塔的話能帶給他們的家人某種安慰,同時幫助我們理解痛苦中的人,傾聽他們並對他們伸出援手。

In this Q&A video, Anita touches on the following topics:
1. What causes depression in most cases?
2. Turn INWARD and dream BIG
3. Let’s get comfortable with no labels and structure
4. About “Mind Over Matter” and “Law of Attraction”
5. How to find true love?
6. Is life with pain worth it?
7. What happens to people who commit suicide?

Happy people will never choose to leave this world. Those who did must have gone through enormous pain. Sincerely hope that Anita's words will bring any comfort to their families, and at the same time, encourage us to open our minds to those in suffering by listening to them and offering whatever help we can.



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Anita's website, Facebook page and radio show:
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如果您不認識艾妮塔,可以從這部影片了解她的瀕死經驗以及她如何奇蹟似地在幾週內從癌症末期康復。
If you are not familiar with Anita’s story, you can watch this video to learn about her near-death experience and how she miraculously recovered from her terminal illness.



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轉念遇到愛 (二) – 凱蒂的「功課」 / Turn Around and Find Love (Part II) – The Work


愛 – 無需追求,它就在你心裏 
Stop Seeking Love and Start Finding It 

Source: Experience Life Magazine (July – Sept 2007 edition)
文章來源 : 體驗生活雜誌 (2007年7-9月號) 

https://experiencelife.com/article/stop-seeking-love-and-start-finding-it/


By Anne Geske
作者: 安妮‧賈絲柯 (作家)

Dissatisfied with your relationships? Longing for greater closeness and appreciation from others? Maybe you’re working a little too hard to win the happiness already within your grasp. 

對你的親密關係不滿意嗎? 渴望和別人更親近,得到他們的肯定嗎? 其實你努力追求的快樂就近在呎尺。 


Lea Ann Paradise was in love. She was dating Bob (not his real name) a few years ago and was working overtime to make the relationship blossom. There was just one tiny problem: He didn’t love her back.

莉雅‧安‧白瑞戴思曾在戀愛中。她和包柏 (非真名) 在幾年前交往時,她很認真地想讓那段關係開花結果。但是有個小問題: 包柏並不愛她。

“I wanted Bob to love me,” Paradise recalls. “I wanted him to show me that he loved me, and that wasn’t happening.” She was convinced that she could be happy only if Bob would return her love. It wasn’t until long after the two went their separate ways that Paradise began to realize that her happiness depended far less on someone else’s affections than it did on her own frame of mind.

「我要包柏愛我。」莉雅回憶時說。「我要他對我表示愛意,但他一直沒有。」她相信唯有包柏對她回報以愛她才會快樂。後來在兩人分手很久以後莉雅才開始明白,她的快樂主要是來自她自己的想法,而不是來自依賴別人的感情。

Like Paradise, many of us believe that we’ll be happy once we win the love, intimacy and approval of those around us. So we work hard to curry favor with others; we worry about what others feel and think. In the process, we open ourselves to a lot of heartache and anxiety. We also convince ourselves that our happiness depends on others’ actions and attitudes — when in fact it depends on what we, ourselves, think and believe.

和莉雅一樣,我們很多人相信,一旦我們獲得周圍人的愛、親密關係和認同,我們就會很快樂。於是我們努力去迎合別人,我們擔心別人的感覺和看法。在這個過程裏,我們很容易讓自己受到傷害和產生焦慮。我們也讓自己相信,我們的快樂是受別人的行為和態度來左右 — 而事實上,它是由我們自己的想法和信念所決定。

The notion that we need to win people over is ingrained in our culture. Many of us “stage-manage” what we say and how we act in front of someone important to us. We nervously watch for signs that we’re succeeding. Afterward, we mentally rewind the conversation and judge our performance.

取悅別人的這個觀念根深蒂固在我們的文化裏。我們很多人會在重要的人面前「操控」我們的言語和行為來達到某一種效果。我們小心翼翼地觀察達到目標的訊號,而且會在事後在腦筋裏,將那場對話重新上演一次來評估我們的表現。 

That’s a lot of work for something we really can’t control. And quite frankly, we don’t need to bother, says Byron Katie, author of I Need Your Love — Is That True? How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead (Harmony Books, 2005).

對於我們無法控制的事,這實在很花功夫。而且坦白說,我們不必如此,「我需要你的愛。這是真的嗎?:四個問句改變愛的關係」一書的作者拜倫‧凱蒂表示 (英文版於2005年由 Harmony Books出版) 

Seeking love and approval from others simply doesn’t work, says Katie. “We stand in front of a person, we imagine what they want us to sound like, and we put on a facade in order to win their approval,” she explains. “And then when they say something like, ‘I approve of you,’ part of us doesn’t really believe it because we know they’re approving of a facade.”

尋求別人的愛和認同是沒有用的,凱蒂表示。「當我們站在人前,我們會想像他們希望我們說什麼,然後我們戴上一個面具來贏取他們的認同。」她解釋。「如果他們說 『我肯定你了』 之類的話,我們其實也不會全然相信,因為我們明白他們肯定的是一只面具。」

Even if our act is successful, we still aren’t entirely happy. Why? Because the more we focus on what the other person is thinking, the less we are present for our own thoughts and feelings, and to the real relationship that exists between us. “The irony,” Katie notes, “is that the struggle to win love and approval makes it impossible to have them.”

即使我們真的達到目的,我們仍然 不會開心。為什麼? 因為我們越把注意力放在對方的看法上,我們會越忽略我們自身的想法和感受,以及兩人間真正的互動關係。「諷剌的是,」 凱蒂說,「努力去追求愛和認同反而讓我們得不到。

Question Your Thoughts 
質疑你的想法 

At the heart of Katie’s work is the idea that when we believe our stressful thoughts, we suffer, but when we question them, we don’t. Confused thoughts, Katie says, are the cause of all stressful feelings — which, in turn, cause unkind, crazy-making behaviors that often contribute to our own unhappiness.

凱蒂的中心思想是,如果我們認同不愉快的想法,我們就會痛苦; 如果我們質疑它們,我們會得到解脫。凱蒂說,混淆不清的想法是所有不愉快情緒的主因,它們導致惡意和瘋狂的行為,讓我們很不快樂。

“The way the mind works,” says Katie, “is that it thinks, for example, ‘I’m unhappy.’ Something wonderful may be happening around us, but the mind is busy proving that thought: ‘I’m unhappy,’” she says. “The mind’s job is to look only for what will validate that belief.”

「念頭是這樣運作的,」凱蒂說,「比如它會這麼想 『我不快樂』。」也許我們周遭正發生一件很棒的事,但是我們的念頭忙著證明我們的想法: 「我不快樂,」她說。「念頭只會尋找對它有利的證據。

Until we are willing to challenge our thoughts, we’re stuck in a desperate cycle of seeking and not receiving. In the process, we become largely incapable of enjoying the real love and appreciation that’s coming our way.

除非我們開始質疑我們的想法,我們會一直陷在「尋求」和「得不到」的循環裏。在這個過程中,我們會對周圍真正發生的愛和肯定視而不見。

Challenging Reality 
挑戰事實 

To help people transform their false thoughts, Katie has developed a set of four questions she calls “The Work” (see “Get Real With Your Relationships,” below, and the article “Coming to Terms” in the October 2004 archives for more info on The Work).

凱蒂發展了一套包含四個問題的方法,來幫助人們轉變錯誤的想法,她把這些問題稱為「功課」 。(請參考下面「 發現人際關係的真相」段落和提供的網站得到更多資訊)。

Katie’s questions first challenge the verity of the thoughts that are causing us trouble; then they invite us to look at how we act under their influence. The final question invites us to consider who we might be without our troubling notions. In most cases, we find we would be free to act and relate differently — and in a way far more likely to create satisfaction for ourselves and others.

凱蒂的問題首先質疑我們煩惱念頭的真實性,然後引導我們去發現這些念頭對我們的影響。最後一個問題要我們去思考,如果這些煩惱的念頭不存在,我們會是誰。在多數的情形下,我們會感覺不再受束縛,反應的方式也會改變,這種改變會帶給我們和別人更高的滿意度。

The next step in The Work is to create a “turnaround.” This involves reversing the original idea in various ways to create new perspectives. Turnarounds tend to reveal elements of reality (and relationships) that seem obvious once we’ve lit on them. They can also reveal the extent to which we are investing our emotional energy in false notions that may themselves be making us miserable.

「功課」的下一步是「轉念」,意思是將原來的念頭用不同的方法翻轉來創造新的視角。「轉念」的結果往往可以幫助我們看清事實(和人際關係)裏的要素,並且讓我們明白我們將情緒的能量消耗在錯誤的觀念上,讓自己很悲慘。

For Paradise, as an example, the distressing thought “I need him to love me” first got turned around to become “I don’t need him to love me.” This rang surprisingly true, she realized, because “it appears he doesn’t love me, and I’m still breathing.” After working through more turnarounds and their associated epiphanies, she tried: “I need me to love me.” That last statement seemed especially right-on to Paradise, who realized her energy was better spent being “at home with myself, instead of having my attention on him.”

就莉雅的例子來說,這個煩惱的念頭「我需要他愛我」首先可以轉念成「我 需要他愛我。」她發現這個想法居然很真實,因為「很顯然地,他並 愛我,但我還在呼吸。」經過幾次不同的轉念和新發現,她嘗試:「我需要 來愛我。」這最後的陳述對莉雅有如當頭棒喝,她發現她把精神花在「待在家裏和自己在一起」要比「把注意力放在他身上」好得多。 

What she ultimately discovered, she says, is that she was quite capable of loving herself, and that she was “whole, whether someone else loved me or not.”

她最終發現,她說,她其實很能愛自己,而且她是個「健全的人,不管別人愛不愛我。」

Building Authentic Connections 
建立真正的關係 

Psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD, author of Opening Love’s Door: The Seven Lessons (iUniverse, 2004), has found Katie’s questions so helpful that she has incorporated a variation of them into her relationship classes. “Katie’s approach helps you realize that these anxiety-provoking thoughts about whether or not another person likes you or loves you are really just projections of your own negative self-judgment,” Kirschner says.

心理學家戴安娜‧柯絲諾博士,也是「打開愛的心門: 七件功課」一書的作者(2004年iUniverse出版),發現凱蒂的問題非常有用,於是將它們稍作改變納入她的人際關係課程裏。「凱蒂的方法幫助我們了解這些焦慮的念頭,擔心別人是否喜歡你或愛你,只是我們負面自我批判的投射而已,」柯絲諾博士表示。 

Once you examine these thoughts, she adds, you see that they don’t serve you. “You stop enacting this behavioral pattern that’s really self-defeating, and you start enacting a behavioral pattern that is validating.”

一旦你開始檢視這些念頭,她說,你會發現它們是在傷害你。「你會終止這個自我打擊的行為模式,開始肯定自己。」 

Over time, Paradise says, Katie’s approach has helped her engage more authentically. Whether meeting someone new or talking to an old friend, she says, “I’m here now. I’m open and present. I get to experience the person in front of me instead of my story about them.”

經過一段時間後,莉雅說,凱蒂的方法幫助她能更真實地和其他人相處。無論是認識新人或和老朋友交談,她說,「我的心就在現在。我很坦然,活在當下。我可以真實地和我面前的人互動,而不用糾結在我對他們的看法裏。」

That’s what it’s all about, says Katie: “If you approve of yourself, you can approach people totally, without seeking approval. You realize that their reaction has to do with who they believe you are, not with who you really are. So their approval is just icing on the cake, because you already have what’s most important: your own love.”

這就是重點,凱蒂說:「如果你肯定自己,你就可以很自在地和別人相處,不需要尋求他們的認同。因為你了解,別人的反應不過是反映他們自己對你的看法,和真正的你無關。所以他們的認同只是像蛋糕上的糖霜, 因為你已經擁有了最重要的東西: 你給自己的愛。」

Get Real With Your Relationships 
發現人際關係的真相 

When you feel upset about a relationship, notice the thoughts running through your head, and write down the one that is most disconcerting at that moment. For instance, “She hasn’t called me back; that means she doesn’t care about me.” Now ask these questions:

1. Is it true?
2. Can I absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How do I react when I believe that thought?
4. Who or what would I be without that thought?

當你對一段人際關係感到不安時,請留意你當時的念頭,將最令你不安的想法寫下來。例如,「她沒有回我電話; 這表示她不再關心我了。」然後回答以下這些問題: 

1. 這是真的嗎? 
2. 我確信這是真的嗎? 
3. 如果我相信這個念頭,我會做什麼反應? 
4. 如果我沒有這個念頭,我會是誰? 

Next, turn the thought around and find three genuine examples of how each turnaround might be true. In the above example, one turnaround might be “She does care about me.” Another might be “I don’t care about me.”

接下來,將這個念頭翻轉一下,找到三個可能真實的「轉念」。就這個例子來說,一個轉念可能是「她 關心我的。」另一個可能是「 不關心我。」 

Be willing to challenge the thoughts that trouble you, and you’ll start finding more constructive courses of thought and action that serve you better.

當你開始質疑讓你心煩的念頭時,你會開始發現對你更健康的想法和行為模式。 



Reprinted with permission from I Need Your Love — Is That True? How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead by Byron Katie (Harmony Books, 2005). 

經過刊載許可 -- 拜倫‧凱蒂的著作「我需要你的愛。這是真的嗎?:四個問句改變愛的關係」 (英文版於2005年由 Harmony Books出版) 

譯者註: 中文版 – 提供給有興趣的中文讀者 
http://www.books.com.tw/products/0010494236



Katie’s Story

Byron Katie, founder of The Work, has one job: to teach people how to end their own suffering. As she guides people through the powerful process of inquiry she calls The Work, they find that their stressful beliefs—about life, other people, or themselves—radically shift and their lives are changed forever. Based on Byron Katie's direct experience of how suffering is created and ended, The Work is an astonishingly simple process, accessible to people of all ages and backgrounds, and requires nothing more than a pen, paper, and an open mind.

凱蒂的故事

拜 倫‧凱蒂創辦了「功課」,她只有一個目的: 教導人們如何不再自尋煩惱。在她的引導下經歷這個她稱為「功課」的強大探究過程之後,很多人發現他們不愉快的念頭 – 對人生、其他人或他們自己 – 發生很大的轉變,生命也從此不一樣。這門「功課」是根據拜倫‧凱蒂親身經歷痛苦的產生及結束所創造的,它是一個極為簡單的過程,任何人不分年齡和背景都可 以使用,而且只需要一枝筆、一張紙和一個開放的心。 

Through this process, anyone can learn to trace unhappiness to its source and deal with it there. Katie (as everyone calls her) not only shows us that all the problems in the world originate in our thinking: she gives us the tool to open our minds and set ourselves free.

透過這個過程,任何人都可以去追溯不愉快的根源,然後對症下藥。凱蒂 (一般人對她的稱呼) 不僅讓我們明白所有的問題都來自我們的念頭,並且提供了一個幫助我們敞開心門和解脫的方法。


How The Work Began
 「功課」的由來 

Byron Katie became severely depressed in her early thirties. For almost a decade she spiraled down into rage, self-loathing, and constant thoughts of suicide. For the last two years she was often unable to leave her bedroom. Then one morning in February 1986, she experienced a life-changing realization. There are various names for an experience like this. Katie calls it “waking up to reality.”

拜倫‧凱蒂在三十歲初頭時陷入嚴重的憂鬱狀態。接下來近十年,她每況愈下,生活在憤怒、自我憎恨和不斷想自殺的念頭裏。最後的兩年,她甚至經常無法走出她的臥房。但在1986年二月的某天早上,她突然領悟到一件事,從此改變她的人生。這個經驗可以用不同的名稱來形容,凱蒂把它稱為「覺醒到真相」。 

In that instant, she says,

在那一刻,她形容:

I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn't believe them, I didn't suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. That joy is in everyone, always.

我發現當我相信我的念頭時,我會痛苦,當我不相信時,我就解脫了。我們每個人都是如此。自由其實是這麼簡單。我發現痛苦是一個選擇。我發現心中那份喜悅從來沒有離開過我,一刻都沒有。那份喜悅也時刻在每個人的心裏。

She realized that what had been causing her depression was not the world around her, but the beliefs she'd had about the world. Instead of hopelessly trying to change the world to match her thoughts about how it should be, she could question these thoughts and, by meeting reality as it is, experience unimaginable freedom and joy. As a result, a bedridden, suicidal woman was instantly filled with love for everything life brings.

她發現讓她產生憂鬱的不是她周遭的世界,而是她對這個世界的看法。與其徒勞地想改變這個世界去迎合她的想法,她可以去質疑這些念頭,藉由看清和面對真相,獲得無比的自由和喜悅。於是,一個原本下不了床想自殺的女人,從此對生命的萬事萬物充滿了愛。

The Work, Katie's process of self-inquiry, didn't develop from this experience; she says that it woke up with her, as her, that February morning in 1986. The first people who did The Work reported that it had transformed their lives, and she soon began receiving invitations to teach the process publicly.

凱蒂的這門「功課」,一個自我探究的過程,其實不是根據她這個經驗發展出來的。她說這個方法在1986年二月的那天早晨和她一起醒來,變成她的一部份。最早一批參加這門「功課」的人表示,這個方法改變了他們的人生。凱蒂隨即開始接到邀約向大眾公開傳授。 

Since 1986, she has brought The Work to millions of people across the world, at free public events, in prisons, hospitals, churches, corporations, universities, schools, at weekend workshops, at her amazing nine-day School for The Work, and through the Institute for The Work.

自1986年起,凱蒂已經將她的「功課」傳授給全世界幾百萬的人,包括透過她舉辦的免費公開活動,經由監獄、教會、公司行號、大學、各級學校和周末工作坊,以及她成效卓著的九天「功課學校」和「功課學院」。 

Are you ready to change your thinking and your world? Everything you need to do The Work is available free on this website.

你也準備好要改變你的念頭和世界了嗎? 你可以在這個網站免費得到一切這門「功課」的資源。 

* Judy H 譯 * 

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~ Additional Info~

If you are interested, you can find everything about the Work at this website:
http://thework.com/en (in English and different languages)

~ 補充資訊 ~
有興趣的讀者可以在以下中文網站了解「功課」: 

「功課」官方網站 : http://thework.com/sites/thework/chinese/ (英文、中文簡體和其他各國語言) 

台灣推廣網站: http://the-work.tw/ (中文繁體) 


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轉念遇到愛 (一) / Turn Around and Find Love (Part I)


也許我們渴望得到別人的認同是因為,在我們內心深處我們已先對他們有愛? 這份愛的能量只是被尋求認同的自我中心意識所掩蓋。也許這是為什麼我們越愛一個人,我們越希望得到他們的認同? 
 
Is it possible that the reason we seek other people’s approval is because deep in us, we have love for them first? The love is just obscured by the dominating ego to win people’s approval. Maybe this is why that the more we love a person, the stronger our desire to have their approval?

~ Judy H

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文章來源 / Source:
https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/posts/404535232936093

By Grace Bell
作者: 葛蕾思‧培爾

Dear Inquirers,

親愛的自我探索學員們: 

Yesterday I received a call from the company who rented a lodge to me last weekend asking if I had seen a couple of items that belonged in the kitchen.

昨天我接到一通電話, 是上周末把小木屋租給我的那家公司打來的,問我有沒有看到廚房裏的兩件物品。 

I recognized them immediately. They were in my home, instead of where they should be back in the kitchen lodge. I thought they were left at the lodge by friends and family.

我馬上就知道是什麼東西了。它們正在我家,沒有被歸還到木屋的廚房間去。我以為是親戚還是朋友留下來的

An innocent mistake, and easy to return the items....

一個無心的過失,很輕易就可以物歸原主 …. 

And yet, here came that little idea in the mind "she thought I was stealing, I should have been more careful, now we have to drive 2 hours to return them, we've left a bad impression..."

但是,一個很小的念頭閃過腦海:「她認為我是偷的。我應該小心一點才對,現在我們必須開兩個小時的車回去歸還。我們給了別人不好的印象…」

The urge to impress others enters our consciousness in such subtle little moments. There is a fear that those people out there won't approve of us, don't like us, aren't agreeing with us. We become afraid that we'll be rejected, even by a look, a comment, a thought.

想給人留下好印象這種慾望常常在瞬間潛入我們的意識裏。我們害怕別人不接受我們,不喜歡我們,和我們意見不合。我們害怕被拒絕,即便是一個眼神,一句話,或一個念頭。 

In her book I Need Your Love, Is It True? Byron Katie talks about the quick automatic response that many of us have to say "Excuse Me!" or "Sorry!" to strangers, to apologize, to make sure they are thinking well of us.

在「我需要你的愛。這是真的嗎?」這本書裏,拜倫‧凱蒂談到很多人都會對陌生人脫口而出說「不好意思」或「對不起」來表示歉意,來確保我們在他們心目中的良好形象。

What would be the worst that could happen if we didn't have good manners? If we didn't explain ourselves? If we didn't defend ourselves or try to make a good impression?

如果我們態度不好,如果我們沒有為自己辯解,如果我們沒有維護自己或設法給對方留下好的印象,最壞的結果會是什麼? 

What if you weren't concerned with what others think and you simply responded to a situation truthfully and authentically?

如果你不在乎別人的看法,只是真實地作出反應會怎麼樣? 

In my imagination I have believed that if someone thought I was rude, immature, immoral, mean, selfish or that I don't care about them...then they might hurt me.

在我的想像裏,我曾經認為如果有人覺得我態度不好、不成熟、不道德、卑鄙、 自私或不關心別人,他們可能會讓我受到傷害。 

They would leave me or attack me. They would punish me. They would tell other people how awful I am and those people would also separate from me. They would never rent the lodge to me again!!

他們會離開我或批判我。他們會懲罰我。他們會告訴別人我有多糟糕,然後那些人也會離我而去。他們再也不會把小木屋租給我了!! 

If someone thought I behaved terribly, then I should feel guilt, shame, embarrassment and sadness. If someone didn't like me or thought I did something wrong (like steal a bowl from the kitchen) then I deserved their suspicion or wrath. My fault.

如果有人認為我的行為不當,我應該覺得歉疚、羞愧、難為情、傷心。如果有人不喜歡我或認為我做錯了事 (像是偷了廚房的碗),我就該被他們懷疑和責難。是我的錯。

Ultimately, I would be alone burning in a fiery pit. Hell. If they thought I was a bad person, then I was.

 最後,我會孤單地留在熾熱的火坑裏。下地獄。如果他們認為我是壞人,我就是壞人。 

I remember when my former husband told me he was moving out. I was overwhelmed with the thought that I was worthy of being left. I was terrified, then furious, but crushed because I instantly believed it must be true.

我記得當我前夫告訴我他要搬出去時,我難過地認為我是活該被拋棄。我害怕、憤怒,然後崩潰了,因為我馬上對這個念頭信以為真。 

Who was the one who believed that thought that I was unworthy? Me. 

是誰相信了這個念頭,認為我一文不值? 是我自己。 

A simple question is asked. Someone says "Did you take my thing?" and FEAR is the response. Someone says "When were you going to clean up this mess?" or "I thought you were spending the evening with me" or "We need to talk" and we're on alert.

有人問了一個簡單的問題: 「你拿了我的東西嗎?」我們的反應是恐懼。有人說「你什麼時候才會去收拾乾淨?」或「我以為你今晚會陪我的」或「我們需要談一談」,我們會立刻提高警覺。

The solution? Sit down and question the belief "I want them to like me, I want them to approve of me"...."I did something wrong".

有什麼解決方法嗎? 讓我們坐下來質疑這個念頭:「我要他們喜歡我,我要他們接受我」 …「我做錯了事」。 

When you turn these concepts around, you do not have to fear that you will be a cold, disinterested, rude or uncaring person. You will find that what is true is that you want to approve of THEM and to like THEM, even when they are apparently confronting you or expressing criticism.

當你將這個念頭翻轉過來,你就不必害怕成為一個冷漠無情、沒有禮貌或不關心別人的人。你會發現,是你希望去接受他們,是你希望去喜歡他們,即使他們和你起衝突或在批評你。

I want to accept every word, situation, action as reality and bring love to it. I want to love, not hate.

讓我接受現實生活中的每句話、每個情況和行為,然後從愛的角度去看它們。讓我呈現的是愛,而不是憎恨。

Most of all, I want to approve of myself and like myself. I am my most important relationship, after all.

最重要的是,讓我接受自己,喜歡自己。畢竟自己和我才是最重要的關係。

Here's the wonderful thing: your most deeply truthful and automatic response to others asking you questions, or communicating with you about something worrisome, or confronting you when they are upset...is love.

(有了這份轉念後) 最棒的是: 當別人來質問你,向你過問一件不安的事,或生氣地來責問你時,你內心深處最真實的當下反應會是 …. 愛。

 "Who would you be without the thought that you need to seek approval? You might be someone who just lives your life and lets people form whatever impressions they want to form---of you and of everyone else. That's what they're all doing anyway."~ Byron Katie

「如果你沒有想讓別人接受你的念頭,你會是誰? 你也許就是過你自己的日子,隨便他們怎麼看你或其他人。反正他們總是會有自己的想法。」 ~ 拜倫‧凱蒂 

The only thing that is stressful in any situation with another person is my thinking. Without believing the thoughts that I need them to have a good impression of me, I am free. 

在任何情況下和別人相處感覺有壓力是因為我自己的想法。如果我不再認為我需要別人對我有好感,我就自由了。

I find advantages in how other people are. I love them being who they are, I love myself. I am ready for the next step, it's a big adventure.

我開始在別人身上看到他們的優點。我喜歡他們原本的模樣,我也愛自己。我已經準備好要面對下一步,那會是一次很精彩的體驗。

Here I am, not believing my stressful thoughts. Happy. Planning a fun drive back to the lodge to return the missing stuff.

現在,我不再相信自己那些不愉快的念頭。心情很好。讓我輕鬆地開車回去小木屋歸還那些物品吧。 

Love,
Grace

愛你們的, 
葛蕾思 





About Grace Bell

Grace Bell first encountered a need to heal from very painful thinking when still a teenager. This started a journey of self-discovery, seeking, riding a roller-coaster of emotions and thoughts, and studying. She received several therapy treatments in the 1980’s and eventually became a therapist and counselor herself following her studies in the graduate school and completion of a number of training programs. She joined a Course In Miracles study group over a period of 20 years. In 2008 Grace graduated from both the Certification Program for The Work of Byron Katie with The Institute for The Work after many hours of training and attendance over three years, and Accomplishment Coaching, a one-year Life Coach Certification program. Grace has since helped many people from all over the world.

關於葛蕾思‧培爾

青少年時期的葛蕾思‧培爾首度和自己痛苦的念頭相遇,這啟動了她之後一段長時間的情緒動盪和自我探索的過程。1980年代她接受過幾次的心理治療,之後進入碩士學位課程並接受一連串的療癒諮商訓練,最終成為一名諮商治療師。她曾經參加「奇蹟課程」的團體研讀長達20年。然後經過三年無數小時的訓練,2008年她從「功課學院」畢業拿到拜倫‧凱蒂的「功課專業證書」,同時拿到為期一年訓練的「生命教練證書」。至今她幫助過的人已遍及全世界。

* Judy H 譯 *



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